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Month: June 2006

On Becoming Mortal

I became mortal a year ago today.

Prior to that, and unknown to those around me, including family, I was truly superhuman. Many of my unearthly powers are still with me: I can balance rocks, vanish coins and then retrieve them from the ears of astonished children, and move oil-impregnated globs of colored pigment on canvas substrates in an arrangement that looks just like someone you know. No, seriously!

Becoming mortal was a painful and slow process, and to this day, I am still realizing the intrensic limitations of my new condition.

Becoming
mortal
is knowing
you’re
slowly
dying
when you’re
not even
sick.
First there was a jolt I could feel both in my head and deep in my soul. Somewhere, Someone with Omnipotence had this shocking initiation delivered to me through—get this—an ordinary cell-phone. It was precisely at 10:15am on June 27, 2005 that my very own mother unwittingly delivered the anesthetizing frequency, apparently traveling within the soundwaves of the phrase, “Your father passed at 10:00am.”

I am sure she did not know that at the same moment I was being stripped of the immortality with which I had shrouded myself for as long as I could remember, which, to me was forever.

Much of the rest of the phone call is a blur. But soon a pressure built up behind my eyes causing an overflow of water.

And what followed in a day in which my whole body numbed was the realization that I was dying. That I am not going to live on forever. That, in fact, if I live as long as my father did, I have only 27 years left. That’s just 1400 weekends.

Becoming mortal is knowing you’re slowly dying when you’re not even sick.

And there’s nothing you can do to stop it.

Just a Monday

Pizza Port AleMy wife caught me lying in bed staring at the ceiling this morning.

“What are you thinking about right now?”

So I told her. I was thinking that one year ago on a Monday just like today, I got a phone call from my mom to tell me my dad had died. Well, she used a euphemism. She said he passed at 10:00am.

It was actually a year ago tomorrow, June 27th, but the date doesn’t feel quite like this Monday does. It was that Monday, that had followed a weekend—as they all do—that changed my life forever. And this very Monday brings back some of those feelings.

Later, in an annual tradition I hope never will end, I will go to the local micro-brewery and make a toast to my father as I did that day. One of my fondest memories is sipping an ice-cold, hand-crafted beer with my dad.

I hope there is beer in Heaven.

“Here’s to you Dad.”

Read my description of that day in my entry A Day of Celebration.

There are many euphemisms for death: pass away, pass on, final rest, crossing the great boa… Many of us Christians refer to death as a Homegoing, when our spirits are finally home with our Heavenly Father. My dad was sure of his place in eternity.

We’ll see each other again.

eBay and Scammers

As a seller on eBay, I take certain risks selling to unknown people in far away places, but consider it safe for the most part. Many protections are established.

Usually
it is safe
A scam came my way, though I was not a victim in terms of losing money or merchandise, but the unscrupulous person behind the scam—which I am certain was designed to seperate me from my money and my item—caused my auction to end early, and deflated my party balloons, and has made me have to wait to relist — at least seven days, or more.

I detailed the scam, and recorded the eBay Chat Help. Read about it here: eBay Money Order Scam

As my friend Darren so aptly wrote:

Thanks for the heads up on the scam thing. I saw that the painting had sold for $350 and was happy for you, but now would like to get hold of the person that bid by their earlobe and twist.

At least one group of computer wizzes is fighting back, and having fun doing it: Scamming the Scammers

eBay Money Order Scam

Be careful…

I am grateful that I did not fall for this, and in fact I cannot determine how the scam is supposed to have worked, but my suspicions were up immediately when I received an odd e-mail related to a painting I recently sold on eBay.

Within 24 hours someone used the “Buy It Now” button to purchase one of my oil paintings for $350. I was delighted! Excited!

And then I saw that the buyer’s eBay name was folly_001 with a feedback rating of (0), and the info “Member since: Jun-22-06” — that was the day before I posted the item.

Still, I considered that the person saw my art somewhere and decided to get a new account for the first time so that they could buy one of my fantastic pieces. (My ego sometimes keeps things out of sharp focus).

So, anyway, today I got the following e-mail from john steph <follyjohn04@yahoo.com> which says:

Dear Seller,
I will like to inform you my intrest in ur item and i will like to pay you through MONEY ORDER,i will pay US $360.10 for this item i will pay you an excess money and i want you to deduct your item money and shipping fees from it and send back the remaining amount to my customer via western union ..I want a quick response from you because i am really in need of the item urgently.Also i want the item posted out immidiately you get the Money Order and also make sure you get back to me as soon as possible with your name and address so the money order could be mailed out Will be expecting your name and address so i can mail the money order out as fast as possible….Include your e-mail address….

Now, does that look a little weird to you? Sounds like a foreign scam, doesn’t it? Like one of those Nigerian scams

First red flag: “ur item” doesn’t seem appropriate for “beautiful painting I just had to have so I bought it with Buy It Now.”

Next red flag: Money Order. I know those can be faked, and many people have been duped.

Next red flag: I will pay you excess money. Why? I think this is where the scam is. I am supposed to see that he paid me too much and send him—out of my checking account or something—whatever was overpaid. When it turns out the Money Order is fake, it’s too late: I have already mailed the artwork (“ur item“) and some money. I’m supposed to think that a Money Order is as good as cash, so before waiting to find out from my bank if it’s real, I just send the item and a check for the overpayment.

Next red flag: Western Union. I have already heard of the Western Union scams

Anyway, I went directly to eBay’s Live Help Chat window and began immediately typing my “story” knowing I had about 8 minutes to wait for an assistant. That speeds things up. Below is my conversation:

While waiting for your chat to begin, you can start typing in your question. To help us address your questions as quickly as possible, please include your email address, eBay User ID and any other pertinent information such as item numbers, error messages, etc. (if available). We may also require your name, address and phone number for verification purposes.
Your entries will become visible to the agent once they have joined the chat. Thank you for your patience.

thirtyin30: I received the following e-mail in response to my invoice, and it smells fishy to me:
thirtyin30: Dear Seller,
I will like to inform you my intrest in ur item and i will like to pay you through MONEY ORDER,i will pay US $360.10 for this item i will pay you an excess money and i want you to deduct your item money and shipping fees from it and send back the remaining amount to my customer via western union ..I want a quick response from you because i am really in need of the item urgently.Also i want the item posted out immidiately you get the Money Order and also make sure you get back to me as soon as possible with your name and address so the money order could be mailed out Will be expecting your name and address so i can mail the money order out as fast as possible….Include your e-mail address….

thirtyin30: That’s the whole e-mail, and it is from a buyer with “0” feedback
thirtyin30: re: item number 120001078892
thirtyin30: buyer: folly_001

Your chat session has started…

thirtyin30: Just received another, while waiting: “I will like to inform you my intrest in ur item and i will like to pay you through MONEY ORDER,i will pay US $350.00 for this item i will pay you an excess money and i want you to deduct your item money and shipping fees from it and send back the remaining amount to my customer via western union ..I want a quick response from you because i am really in need of the item urgently.Also i want the item posted out immidiately you get the Money Order and also make sure you get back to me as soon as possible with your name and address so the money order could be mailed out Will be expecting your name and address so i can mail the money order out as fast as possible….Include your e-mail address….

Melody B.: Hello, welcome to eBay General Support Live Chat! … … Please allow me a moment to review your question.
thirtyin30:
“his” address:john folly
320 zenith dr (fake, see below)
el paso, TX 79912
Melody B.: Let me check on this a moment please.
thirtyin30: A Google Maps search renders no such address: Click here to see Google results
Melody B.: This total email does not sound good to me in any way.
thirtyin30: Well, I agree, it is bad english, and it smells like a scam, but I can’t figure out how a scam would be pulled off, unless it’s some kind of “send it and you’ll get your money” scam.
Melody B.: Yes I keep reading this over myself, I smell something just not right with this.
thirtyin30: Well, how do I handle it properly?
Melody B.: I would try to contact this buyer by phone is what I would do, get his accurate address from us as well — call them and just find out why he is sending you excess money.
thirtyin30: I already asked that, and received a follow-up of the second e-mail I posted above.
Melody B.: Hmm… did you get the contact information from our system, including a phone number?
thirtyin30: No, I do not know how to do that. Link please?
Melody B.: I will explain!
Melody B.: You can request the phone number of a transaction partner by clicking the link near the top-right corner of most eBay pages labeled ‘Advanced Search’. Then, on the advanced search page, there is a box on the far left side with several links. Click the ‘Find Contact Information‘ link, and then please follow the instructions provided. Here is a quick link as well for you! http://search.ebay.com/_W0QQtZvbQQsofindtypeZ9
Melody B.: Also when this buyer received his “item won” email from the purchase of this item, your address would be there on it when he clicks on the Pay Now to indicate that he is paying a certain method.
thirtyin30: He apparently received the “item won” e-mails, as he copied it to me with the second e-mail.
Melody B.: Yes, so when he clicks on “pay now” then he would have your address and name to “send” the money too.
thirtyin30:
User ID: folly_001
Name: john folly
Company:
City: el paso
State: TX
Country: United States
Phone: (348) 937-2761 (no such area code, or phone number)
Registered Since: Thursday, Jun 22, 2006 01:31:38 PST
thirtyin30: The name “Folly” almost sounds too fake to be good…
Melody B.: Yes, please try calling this person and seeing if he even exists..
Melody B.: also if you get a money order, it must clear before you will ship. and only send for the amount you request that you will not send balances back.
thirtyin30: Very well.
Melody B.: Be very suspicious and delay as long as you can — making sure this buyer remains active on the site and doesn’t turn into a “no longer a registered user”…
thirtyin30: According to Google SMS: Sorry, ‘area code: 348’ did not return any results, nor did the phone number.

What do you mean ‘delay as long as possible’?
Melody B.: So the information that they have listed is incorrect, okay then you will want to file a report on this person to our Trust and Safety department.
Melody B.: May I provide this link for you to contact them?
thirtyin30: yes please
thirtyin30: And what do I do about the selling fees? I put up about $25 to post the auction…
Melody B.: Here is the link to write in to Trust and Safety, they will also advise you on whether you should complete this sale.

Once you get to this page, you will want to go to the “email us” link that is there and write in regarding this situation. Also, If you need to contact us again, you can email us by clicking on ‘Contact Us’ from the left side of all eBay help pages.

thirtyin30: Will I be refunded all the fees?
Melody B.: If you end up filing an unpaid item dispute for this, your final value fees will be credited and you will then qualify for the free re-list.

thirtyin30: My livelihood depends on my selling my paintings daily. I cannot wait a long time for this to process. I need to get hte item back on eBay immediately.
Melody B.: Yes I understand.
thirtyin30: In other words, there is no way to expedite it, even though the phone number is fake and so is the address?
Melody B.: If you feel that this information is not correct and that this item will not be paid for — you cannot escalate this, however you may wish to re-list this. However you may wish to hear back from our Trust and Safety department in order for them to advise you on this for certain.
You will not be able to file a dispute for 10 days after this auction ends.
Melody B.: So this is really a choice you need to make, I would certainly try to locate a number for that address and exhaust my options.

UPDATE Saturday, July 15, 2006

So far the fellow has followed through. Yesterday I received $1500 in counterfeit American Express Traveler’s Cheques [Picture].

At first I was fooled… I thought I had received an anonymous gift from a foreigner. I was baffled. There was no return address, my own address was written very big on the front of a #10 envelope, the Benin, Western Africa stamp and cancellation were in the lower right corner [Picture] and there was absolutely nothing in the envelope except three cheques and the blank, white paper folded around them.

Then I remembered that I before I left on vacation a week ago, I had received another e-mail from this “John Steph” fellow telling me he has sent the money. He reiterated that he would be over-paying and that I should cash them the same day and send him the balance.

With that thought in mind, the cheques “began to look fake.” I could see that the Serial Numbers were “rough around the edges” [Picture], same with the “routing number” [Picture]. This I could see with the naked eye. By comparison to a real routing number [Picture], or the real serialization (check numbers) from my own checkbook [Picture], something just wasn’t right.

My wife and I took them into my bank and asked a teller if he could tell by looking at them if they were real or not. He glanced at them and shook his head no.

“You can’t tell by looking at them?” I asked.

“No. I’m saying these are no good. They are fake. And they are too small to be real.”

I was very impressed at how instantly he knew they were fake.

I used to hear in church that the best way to detect false doctrine was to be extremely familiar with the truth. “If you will just read your bible often, you’ll know when someone is trying to pull something over on you; preaching a false gospel.” More than once, from different preachers, I would hear the story of how bank tellers-in-training work with authentic money. They handle real $100s and $500s, $50s, $20s and $10s. Since they are so familiar wih the real thing, they can spot a counterfeit instantly. Ever see a $1000 bill?

• How to spot a counterfeit bill

The teller got out a real American Express Travelers Cheque to show us. The print was indeed noticeably cleaner, crisper—even though the fakes were pretty clean themselves. Then he laid the fake check on top of the real one. There was a difference in size of less than 1/16″ all the way around—which I am sure I never would have caught, but which he saw at a glance, without even having a real one present to compare to. He was just proving it at this point.

So we collected the checks and went home. Nothing lost.

I scanned them at high-rez and noted a few other things. The plates that the forgers are using (if they are plates at all) are nowhere near the engraved quality of minting plates. Take a look at this image of the counterfeit $500. Not only are the edges of the largest letter broken up into dots, instead of being crisp, sharp lines, but also look at the lines of the long oval and the text inside it—those should be flat and crisp, not made out of dots. Even though your naked eye might not see this at first, your mind will perceive the “softness” created by the imperfect printing.

So currently I am stringing this fellow along, trying to allow time for authorities with FDIC, FBI, Yahoo and others to get involved and track this guy down if they can. I don’t know what they can do with a forger and scammer in West Africa, but with a little more time, they may be able to get somewhere.

Mass Secret Police Firing?

Someone got close enough to crush the President.

From a New York Times article:

When Mr. [Gabriel] Whitney, one of 202 midshipmen to graduate from the United States Merchant Marine Academy in Kings Point, N.Y., on Monday, stepped forward to receive his diploma, it just sort of happened. Call it irrational exuberance. But after six years of undergraduate school and 4,872 demerits, Mr. Whitney, 25, of Nashua, N.H., could hardly restrain himself.

With more reason than most to be overjoyed, the 6-foot-7 midshipman stepped onto the stage to accept his degree and hugged Vice Adm. Joseph D. Stewart, the academy’s superintendent. Then he raised both arms in a victorious salute as his classmates roared their approval.

Elated and with his arms still upraised, he turned toward President Bush, who had just delivered the commencement address.

Mr. Bush, wearing a quizzical expression, responded by raising his arms as well and moved in for a hug. The midshipman—almost unwittingly —found himself squeezing the president in his powerful arms. When the president caught his breath, he shook Mr. Whitney’s hand.

“I said, ‘You’re the man! Thank you very much,’ ” Mr. Whitney said in a telephone interview yesterday.

“The president thought the big bear hug was funny,” said Dana M. Perino, a White House spokeswoman. “He appreciates the terrific enthusiasm of our nation’s graduates, and he was honored to be the first president to address the Merchant Marine Academy. It was quite a thrill for everyone.” [more…]

Yes, this is a heart-warming story of passion and grace. But I do wonder how many secret police voluntarily turned in their resignations within the first 30 minutes after the event.

Hello?!

Where the Hell is Matt?

That’s the name of his website (plus dot com). Matt Harding’s done something remarkable. Viewing this video will likely require high-speed internet access.

It appears this effort has garnered some sponsors.

Genius never ceases to arrive in new forms.

www.wherethehellismatt.com

Fixing a Blog

Comments have mysteriously disappeared.

But they still exist in the database.

The problem is due to an upgrade of a WordPress Plugin called Spam Karma. I have to use this plug-in or another to combat “Comment Spam” which is a huge problem for bloggers—unscrupulous people try to attract blog readers to sites that are usually disgusting by putting links in people’s comments which include keywords and URLs designed to increase popularity in Google searches.

At least 200
spam comments
everyday
Currently I get about 200 such comment spams a day, and fortunately Spam Karma catches them and keeps them from displaying, though I still have to regularly empty the “caught” spams—an unwelcome time-sink.

The new version of Spam Karma somehow set the “comment count” to zero for nearly all my posts, so I must go into the MySQL database and manually reset the count to the actual count for that post. A huge time-sink. And not a little scary.

It will take some time.

I found the answer to my problem here.

Update

I think I got it fixed. And it wasn’t as bad as I thought. The problem only needed to be corrected back as far as the date I installed the upgrade to WordPress which was 2 or 3 days ago—so I didn’t have to correct very many database records.

That having been said, I have to say that I have no idea what someone would do if they are not comfortable with nor do they have the ability to manipulate data in their MySQL database. My guess is that 95% or more of WordPress users do not know how to change data safely in their database, if at all.

I was walking on thin ice, myself, in doing so.

One Less Dad

This is the first Father’s Day in my entire life that I have not had a father on Father’s Day. And yes, it does feel different.

A year ago today was the last Father’s Day I would ever have with my father. I kind of knew it because of his declining condition due to prostate cancer, but there’s that darned blinder called hope that gets in the way of the obvious sometimes.

My wife and I made the trip to my folks’ house beginning at about 4pm on Saturday afternoon. I had finally finished and successfully burned a DVD of my tribute video of and for my dad. It was to be my present for him, and it went way over time-budget.

Everything
made sense
later.
We called my mom to let her know were were on our way—having not really planned anything with her or them for our visit. We were already 125 miles into the trip when we called her, and for the first time in my life, my mom didn’t sound joyful that I was coming to visit.

Everything made sense later. She was dealing with my dad’s last days, and couldn’t fathom house guests.

We got in around 2 or 3am and went to bed, early that Father’s Day. Mom and Dad were asleep in the family room, where Dad slept in his hospital bed, and mom on the couch.

In the morning, when Teresa and I finally arose, we walked into the family room, and my Dad was dressed in slacks and a purple Hawaiian shirt, and sitting up in his recliner to greet us. My mom had gotten him out of his hospital bed and dressed him up, combed his hair, and washed him up to look presentable.

She did such a good job that I had no idea how close to death he was. Later in the afternoon, we watched my video for him. The picture above is of us watching it together. My brother captured that moment on his camera, and I will forever be grateful. My father died eight days later. I had no idea his death was coming that soon.

My own Father’s Day, today, is spent with just Lauren, the youngest of my three children. I made a good “man breakfast” for us; bacon and eggs and toast. Just the two of us all weekend. I’ve been loving it!

Father’s Days are just different, from here on out.

Not that I’m concerned…

Today's My 49th Birthday

Sculpting a Future

Greyson R. Darrow If you’re not reading my other blog at EverydayPaintings.com then you probably don’t know I have a painting of my son Greyson up for sale on eBay at the moment. It’s a 5 x 7, impressionism.

You can read the story about it at EverydayPaintings.com

78 Years Ago…

To pay homage to my mother on this day, her 78th birthday, seems a bit cyclical. Had it not been for her birth, mine never would have occurred. And I would not be wishing her a Happy Birthday today.

Still
Going
Strong
Her day, unfortunately, was taken up by some hosting duties at a get-together and attendance at the memorial service that preceded it. One of her closest friends for the past 29 years, a neighbor down the street, passed away suddenly last month. Just wasn’t feeling well that afternoon, and she died a few hours later.

Life is so unpredictable.

Mom has outlived my dad in birthdays. She’s made it to 78, and is still going strong, give or take a couple of rusty hinges and tired batteries.

Happy birthday, Mom! I love you dearly.

Ambitious Illusion

Ambitious Illusion

This image appears to have been doctored with some kind of overlay of red lines, but it’s an illusion.

Click here to see variations of the illusion, and scroll down to see how this work of art was carefully created. Amazing. It’s all a matter of perspective.

Implications on religious faith: What if there is really only one right point of view?

Here’s another similar work of art, different location.

My Next Nude?

While I love the lighting in this image and think it would make a fantastic painting, I cannot use it. It’s copyrighted, somewhere. This partial-photo came as an attachment in an e-mail advertising a Canadian Pharmacy.

I am beginning to get a different impression of socialized medicine.

Here’s the full banner ad.

Notice, dead center, the Canadian spelling, I presume, of “which.” That was a tip that I probably was not dealing with actual Canadians. That, and the sentence We are the only store wich gives this great deal you!

Fake Headers
If you look at this e-mail as it come into my Mac’s Mail program, it looks legit—as do most fake e-mails—if you can ignore that the e-mail sender john@englishforum.biz goes by the name Ralph. But when I look at the Raw Source of the e-mail in question, the real “header” is revealed. See it here.

Being the vigilent son of an Eagle Scout, I want to report these things to the proper authorities, so I copy the header info to my clipboard, head over to SpamCop.com, and paste into their Interrogate window, click “Interrogate” and wait for the clues. Here’s what I got. You may notice at the bottom, SpamCop has determined the originating ISP, who can then track it down to the individual spammer.

To follow through, I just copy the results from the window above, and click the link(s) provided after REPORT SPAM TO:

For grins, I looked up ValorTelecom.com using BetterWhoIs.com. I got the following information:

Domain Name: VALORTELECOM.COM

Created Date: Dec 8, 1999
Updated Date: Dec 6, 2005
Expiration Date: Dec 8, 2006

Registrant ID: VALOR
Registrant Organization: VALOR TELECOMMUNICATIONS
Registrant Name: VALOR TELECOMMUNICATIONS
Registrant Address: 201 E. John Carpenter Frwy, Suite. 200
Registrant City: Irving
Registrant State/Province: TX
Registrant Country: US
Registrant Postal Code: 75062
Registrant Phone: 972-373-1169
Registrant Fax: 123 123 1234
Registrant Email: webmaster@ktc.com

Name Server: NS1.VALORNET.NET
Name Server: NS2.VALORNET.NET

Note that when I follow the provided link, it does not go to an eBay domain, it goes to this IP address. Always look at the URL/Address when you follow a link that involves your personal data.

Well, I reported it—as instructed by SpamCop—but didn’t call anyone over at ValorTelecom.com in Texas.

I am hoping they will send a much larger picture next time.

I still want to do that painting.

I got a similar scam e-mail that lookes like a legitimate e-mail from an eBay-processed Question from Seller: I’m sure they were trying to take me unsuspectingly to a fake site that looks like an eBay sign-in, and harvest my private log-in info.

Reception Ribbing

About a month ago I got a call one afternoon from David Lindsay from whom I have not gotten a phone call in years.

“Hi, Dave. This is David Lindsay, and I am just calling all the people we sent invitations to for our wedding and reception but who have not RSVP’d…”

“Oh, geez—I’m sorry, Dave. I totally spaced. Yes, Teresa and I will be there. Of course. I am so sorry I didn’t mail back the RSVP card in the envelope you sent… how rude of me [etc., etc., back-pedaling furiously].”

“Oh, don’t worry about it,” he offered graciouly. “A lot of people didn’t RSVP.”

At the wedding dinner and reception, held at the Gazzella [Picture], in downtown Long Beach, we were treated to an elegant dinner, drinks and dancing. When we sat down at the table before dinner, at every place-setting for each of the 175 people they entertained, there was a little, red 2″ gift box, wrapped in a gold ribbon with a “Thank You” sticker. The boxes each contained a few chocolates.

Under the ribbon on each box was a loose, ready-to-use 39¢ postage stamp.

The Longest Maybe

I met David Lindsay in fifth grade at Paseo del Rey Elmentary school, where we both had the same 5th grade warden, Eleanor Stackhouse.

Let me catch my breath.

Okay, I’m fine. Just some memories I still have to work out.

Anyway, David is getting married tomorrow, and Teresa and I are going to his wedding.

At 49
this is
his first
marriage
This is his first marriage. He’s 49 and getting married for the first time. He met Olivia through some kind of hiking group, I think. Their mutual passion is backpacking, and they are both in remarkable health and fantastic physical shape. David looks about 29.

That’s not fair. And that’s why I don’t really like him.

They registered at REI. Is that cool?

Anyway, we’re going to their wedding. My intentions are not only about sharing this incredible sacred moment of love and commitment, but also, really, just to see what it does to a guy—if anything—to say goodbye to a half-century of singlehood.

Something about all this speaks of extreme pickiness on David’s part—which says a lot about Olivia—yet at the same time, it speaks to patience, which says a lot about David.

I wish them all the happiness love can bring.